Imagine waking up tomorrow morning to find an envelope sitting in your mailbox.
You notice it is a little thicker than the others, with only your name written on the front and no return address.
You open it to discover that it is filled with hundred dollar bills, 50 of them to be exact. Five thousand dollars has magically appeared in your life and it is yours to do with as you please.
I think it’s fair to say that all of us would feel grateful in that moment, if not deliriously happy, to have received such a gift.
Yet for many of us, that moment will fade rather quickly as other thoughts about our newfound fortune begin to permeate our mind.
How do we buy that new car or house we want with five thousand dollars?
How can we celebrate this windfall when it only amounts to 20 per cent of what we already owe?
Sure it’s nice to have the money but many of us are saying to ourselves “I wish it was more.”
What we want far outweighs what we have received and even though we’ve won, inside, we can still feel like we’re losing.
I believe we do the same thing with love as well. What we think is owed to us from a past that is peppered in pain is getting in the way of appreciating what we’re being given now by those around us.
Although we receive little gifts of love and kindness, our thoughts about it can sometimes boil down to the same feeling: It’s not enough.
Greek philosopher Epicurus once said: “Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”
Whether it’s with your relationships or the material possessions in your life, much of what you had wished for in your youth has, or is coming to fruition.
Yet unlike your bank account, you have the power to decide what your current balance is at any time.
If you look at what is missing, you will continue to feel in debt and see nothing but red.
But if you begin to appreciate what you have in your life, not only will you feel like you’re in the black, but your interest will grow as well.
So why not choose to be grateful?
What are your thoughts? (comments below)