What would you like to see more of in the world?
Honesty, humour, patience, logic, creativity, sensitivity, structure, charity, humility, hard work or maybe even more play?
Chances are your answer not only reflects what you value most, but also it is your greatest strength.
It is what you take pride in and many of your greatest successes have resulted from that core belief.
If you look a little harder, you might discover that the same attribute you value has also contributed to many of the pitfalls of your past, as well.
For example, many times our need for more control in a situation has created just as many problems as it has solved. Our desire for more organization has, at times, contributed to further chaos, and our requirement to be patient has sometimes made us miss out on some valuable opportunities.
We begin to feel unbalanced as a result and, of course, we don’t like it.
As our sense of frustration grows, we can find ourselves blaming our situation on what’s going on in the world around us by thinking … “If only people were more like me.”
We get trapped in our own set of values because of the good feelings they used to bring us.
Ironically, many times our solution, albeit unconsciously, is to do more of the very thing that is contributing to that feeling of imbalance.
We try thinking harder, or attempt to organize and control our situations even more as a strategy to feel better about ourselves.
However, we can work so hard that we will eventually find ourselves unable to relax or play, or play so much that we are unable to work diligently.
We can focus our attention on helping others so much that we can no longer help ourselves, or focus so much on ourselves that we are unable to feel genuine compassion or empathy for others.
We can use humour in our lives to the point that we eventually find ourselves unable to cry.
Rabindranath Tagore, a Bengaili philosopher, once wrote: “A mind all logic is like a knife all blade. It makes the hand bleed that uses it.”
Our greatest gifts will almost certainly become our greatest liabilities if we do not become aware of their duality.
Working hard or helping others is a great thing, but not to the extent that we begin hurting ourselves.
Humour can help the people in our lives and it can also hurt them.
The same could be said for honesty. Sometimes other people have a right not to know.
Yes, creating more balance in our lives can be as simple as adding a component that we feel is missing.
But that is a difficult thing to do unless we are also willing to take a look at what we already believe to be true and begin embracing the yang to our yin.
How can we possibly add that component to our already full lives if we are not willing to first make room for it by taking a look at what we’re holding on to and why?
The balance we desire in our world can only be achieved when each of us begins to turn our focus away from what we perceive others are doing or not doing and find that harmony within ourselves.
What are the values or habits that you hold so tight that are preventing you from adding that necessary missing piece that will assist you to create the balanced life you desire?
What are your thoughts? (comments below)